A silent dissenter won't respond to "What are your concerns?". Instead, "soft-float" several potential objections, like giving them a multiple-choice question (e.g., "Is it our integrations, our pricing, or something else?"). This lowers the barrier for them to engage and allows them to latch onto a specific point, revealing their true apprehension.

Instead of open-ended agenda items like "let's do intros," propose specific time frames, such as "Let me give you 90 seconds on me, you can give me 90 seconds on you." This small framing tactic establishes you as a professional who respects time, prevents conversations from meandering, and maintains control of the meeting's flow.

True connection requires humility. Instead of trying to imagine another's viewpoint ("perspective taking"), a more effective approach is to actively seek it out through questions and tentative statements ("perspective getting"). This avoids misreads and shows genuine interest.

When people don't understand your point, it's often a sign that you are not meeting them where they are. Instead of pushing forward impatiently, you must go back to their starting point, re-establish shared assumptions, or reframe the message from their perspective.

To introduce a new idea, a leader shouldn't dictate terms. Instead, they should pose it as a discussion topic and listen to the language the team uses (e.g., "cost of living" vs. "inflation"). Adopting their terminology builds shared understanding and makes people feel heard, which enables collective action.

Genuine rapport isn't built on small talk; it's built by recognizing and addressing the other person's immediate emotional state. To connect, you must first help them with what's on their mind before introducing your own agenda.

Leaders often assume goal alignment. A simple exercise is to ask each team member to articulate the project's goal in their own words. The resulting variety in answers immediately highlights where alignment is needed before work begins, preventing wasted effort on divergent paths.

Instead of pitching a customer, ask them, "Why did you decide to get on this call?" and "Why now?" This forces the prospect to articulate their own pain and why they believe you are the solution, reversing the sales dynamic and revealing core buying motivations.

When approaching someone, anticipate their mental checklist of objections and neutralize them upfront. Mentalist Oz Perlman did this by establishing a time limit ("I only have a minute"), building credibility ("the owner brought me in"), and removing the fear of a transaction, all within seconds.