Directly confronting someone about a behavioral 'blocker' often causes defensiveness. A better method is to first demonstrate your own self-awareness and vulnerability. Then, ask for permission to share observations, which creates trust and makes them more receptive to exploring their behavior.

Instead of relying solely on internal self-talk, proactively ask trusted colleagues and supervisors to help you articulate your unique strengths and contributions. This external validation makes your value tangible and builds resilience against shame and comparison.

To empower junior employees in remote meetings, leaders should always ask a question after they present, even if the leader knows the answer. This tactic serves two purposes: it communicates that their work is important and gives them another opportunity to demonstrate their expertise, building their confidence.

True self-awareness involves publicly admitting your weaknesses. By openly stating what you're bad at (e.g., 'I suck at 99% of things'), you build immense credibility and trust when you then declare your strengths. This approach validates your expertise in your core competencies.

True connection requires humility. Instead of trying to imagine another's viewpoint ("perspective taking"), a more effective approach is to actively seek it out through questions and tentative statements ("perspective getting"). This avoids misreads and shows genuine interest.

Salespeople often focus on being 'coachable' (receptive to feedback). A more powerful trait is humility—the proactive asking for help and recognition that success is a team effort. Humility unlocks collaboration and support, getting you further, faster than simply being open to advice.

First-time leaders often feel pressure to have all the answers. Instead, they should embrace a "beginner's mind," openly admitting what they don't know. This creates a safe environment for the team to share mistakes and learn collaboratively, which is crucial for building a playbook from scratch.

Creating an environment where people feel safe to speak up requires more than just asking for it. Leaders must actively model the desired behavior. This includes admitting their own mistakes, asking questions they worry might be "dumb," and framing their own actions as experiments to show that learning and failure are acceptable.

Stanford's famous "Interpersonal Dynamics" course teaches a counterintuitive leadership principle: sharing personal vulnerabilities and imperfections doesn't weaken a leader's position. Instead, it builds trust and fosters stronger connections, shifting relationships from a mystery to something one can actively shape through authentic behavior.