To move beyond status updates in one-on-one meetings, managers should open up about their own challenges. Asking a team member for their perspective on a decision the manager is making fosters trust, shows respect, and can uncover valuable insights you hadn't considered.
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When managing teams across different cultures (e.g., US, Taiwan, Japan), a leader can bypass complex cultural frameworks by simply asking each person, 'What's the best way for me to deliver feedback to you?' This personalizes communication, eliminates guesswork, and demonstrates respect.
Remote work eliminates spontaneous "water cooler" moments crucial for building trust through non-verbal cues. To compensate, leaders should intentionally dedicate the first five minutes of virtual meetings to casual, personal conversation. This establishes a human connection before discussing work, rebuilding lost rapport.
Instead of solving problems brought by their team, effective leaders empower them by shifting ownership. After listening to an issue, the immediate next step is to ask the team to propose a viable solution. This builds their problem-solving and decision-making capabilities.
To empower junior employees in remote meetings, leaders should always ask a question after they present, even if the leader knows the answer. This tactic serves two purposes: it communicates that their work is important and gives them another opportunity to demonstrate their expertise, building their confidence.
Consistently investing in your team on a personal level builds a reservoir of trust and goodwill called "emotional equity." This makes them more receptive to difficult changes like price increases or new strategies, as they believe you have their best interests at heart.
True connection requires humility. Instead of trying to imagine another's viewpoint ("perspective taking"), a more effective approach is to actively seek it out through questions and tentative statements ("perspective getting"). This avoids misreads and shows genuine interest.
When presenting a strategy to leaders who like to 'leave their mark,' proactively design a space for their contribution. Instead of a sealed plan, explicitly ask for their opinion on a specific area. This satisfies their need to add value and makes them a co-owner of the strategy, increasing adoption.
Instead of trying to find the perfect words, preface difficult feedback by stating your own nervousness. Saying, "I'm nervous to share this because I value our relationship," humanizes the interaction, disarms defensiveness, and makes the other person more receptive to the message.
When meeting with senior leaders, shift the focus from your status updates to their priorities. Ask what's top of mind for them, what challenges they face, and how you can help. This reframes you from a direct report into a strategic ally, building trust and social capital.
Instead of offering unsolicited advice, first ask for permission. Frame the feedback around a shared goal (e.g., "I know you want to be the best leader possible") and then ask, "I spotted something that's getting in the way. Could I tell you about it?" This approach makes the recipient far more willing to listen and act.
