Stop trying to convince executives to adopt your priorities. Instead, identify their existing strategic initiatives—often with internal code names—and frame your solution as an accelerator for what they're already sold on doing. This dramatically reduces friction and speeds up deals.

To build relationships with potential mentors or sponsors, replace the extractive ask of "Will you mentor me?" with the value-added offer of "How can I help you?". This non-transactional approach demonstrates your worth, builds genuine rapport, and makes influential people want to invest in your career.

To effectively influence partners, you must understand their priorities. A scrappy research method is to watch their executives' public interviews or internal all-hands meetings. This reveals their strategic goals and allows you to frame your proposal in their language, increasing its resonance.

True connection requires humility. Instead of trying to imagine another's viewpoint ("perspective taking"), a more effective approach is to actively seek it out through questions and tentative statements ("perspective getting"). This avoids misreads and shows genuine interest.

Genuine rapport isn't built on small talk; it's built by recognizing and addressing the other person's immediate emotional state. To connect, you must first help them with what's on their mind before introducing your own agenda.

Securing executive buy-in is its own sales stage, distinct from champion agreement. Don't just repeat the demo for the boss. Use executive-level tactics like reference calls with their peers, exec-to-exec meetings to build relationships, or roadmap presentations to sell the long-term vision and partnership.

When pitching a long-term strategic fix, regional leaders prioritized immediate revenue goals. The product team gained traction not by dismissing these concerns, but by acknowledging their validity. This respect builds the trust necessary to balance short-term needs with long-term investment.

Don't be afraid to surface problems to executives, as their job is almost entirely focused on what's not working. Withholding a problem is unhelpful; clarifying and framing it is incredibly valuable. Your champion isn't offending their boss by raising an issue, they're demonstrating strategic awareness.

Building influence requires a strategic approach. Actively survey your professional relationships, identify where you lack connections with stakeholders, and methodically invest time in building alliances with leaders who can advocate for your ideas when you're not in the room.