Transitioning to management is like moving to a foreign country; your identity, skills, and sources of fulfillment all shift. Success requires adapting to this new reality. Trying to operate with your old expert mindset will lead to frustration and feeling lost.
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Promoting top individual contributors into management often backfires. Their competitive nature, which drove individual success, makes it hard to share tips, empathize with struggling team members, or handle interpersonal issues, turning a perceived win-win into a lose-lose situation.
Individual contributors are rewarded for having answers and sharing their expertise. To succeed as a leader, one must fundamentally change their approach. The job becomes about empowering others by asking insightful questions and actively listening, a diametrically opposed skillset that is difficult to adopt.
New leaders often fail because they continue to operate with an individual contributor mindset. Success shifts from personal problem-solving ("soloist") to orchestrating the success of others ("conductor"). This requires a fundamental change in self-perception and approach, not just learning new skills.
Moving from a technical expert to a leader is jarring because the skills that made you successful are no longer the priority. This shift from valuing your own output to enabling others' expertise often creates a profound, temporary sense of incompetence that few adults enjoy or are prepared for.
High-performing ICs shouldn't view management as a one-way promotion. Instead, it's a temporary "tour of duty" taken on to solve a specific problem that has scaled beyond one person. The goal is to build a team, set a direction, and then transition back to an IC role to find the next challenge.
The transition from a hands-on contributor to a leader is one of the hardest professional shifts. It requires consciously moving away from execution by learning to trust and delegate. This is achieved by hiring talented people and then empowering them to operate, even if it means simply getting out of their way.
A founder's role is constantly changing—from individual contributor to manager to culture builder. Success requires being self-aware enough to recognize you're always in a new, unfamiliar role you're not yet good at. Sticking to the old job you mastered is a primary cause of failure to scale.
What made you a great PM will not make you a great director. The journey into leadership is a process of being humbled, recognizing your worldview is incomplete, and adapting your thinking. If you are not humble enough to change your mind, you will struggle to grow in your career.
Newly promoted directors often fall into the trap of "hero syndrome," trying to solve every problem themselves as they did as individual contributors. True leadership requires letting go, redirecting stakeholders to your team, and finding satisfaction in their success, not your own visibility and praise.
The biggest blind spot for new managers is the temptation to fix individual problems themselves (e.g., a piece of bad code). This doesn't scale. They must elevate their thinking to solve the system that creates the problems (e.g., why bad code is being written in the first place).
