In relationships with a power differential, leaders default to problem-solving. A more effective approach is to first ask a question like, "What does this diagnosis mean to you?" This addresses the subordinate's emotional and social anxieties, making them more receptive to practical advice.

The transition to managing managers requires a fundamental identity shift from individual contributor to enabler. A leader's value is no longer in their personal output. They must ask, "Is it more important that I do the work, or that the work gets done?" This question forces a necessary focus on delegation, empowerment, and system-building.

To avoid stifling teams with bureaucracy, leaders should provide slightly less structure than seems necessary. This approach, described as "give ground grudgingly," forces teams to think actively and prevents the feeling of "walking in the muck" that comes from excessive process. It's a sign of a healthy system when people feel they need a bit more structure, not less.

The belief that people fail due to lack of will leads to blame. Shifting to 'people do well if they can' reframes failure as a skill gap, not a will gap. This moves your role from enforcer to helper, focusing you on identifying and building missing skills.

Leaders who always have the right answer often create an environment where others feel devalued and excluded. The blocker's real cost is not the accuracy of their ideas, but the damage done to team connection and collaborative decision-making, which prevents the team from arriving at the best solutions together.

The pace of change in AI means even senior leaders must adopt a learner's mindset. Humility is teachability, and teachability is survivability. Successful leaders are willing to learn from junior colleagues, take basic courses, and admit they don't know everything, which is crucial when there is no established blueprint.

Use the GROW model (Goal, Reality, Options, Way Forward) to structure coaching conversations. This simple set of question categories helps leaders guide their team members to find their own solutions, fostering independence and critical thinking without the leader needing to provide the answer directly.

The well-intentioned question "How can I help?" puts the burden on the receiver to delegate. A far more valuable trait is proactively identifying needs and simply taking action—a "just do" mentality. This demonstrates a deeper understanding of team goals and removes cognitive load from leaders.

The biggest blind spot for new managers is the temptation to fix individual problems themselves (e.g., a piece of bad code). This doesn't scale. They must elevate their thinking to solve the system that creates the problems (e.g., why bad code is being written in the first place).