The brain's emotional center is five times stronger than its rational part. When triggered by stress, it shuts down executive function. A deliberate 90-second pause is a powerful antidote that allows the physiological wave of emotion to pass, enabling clearer, more considered decision-making.
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An intense emotion like fear will run its course and pass in just 7 to 12 seconds if you let yourself feel it completely without suppression. Chronic suffering arises from resisting the feeling, not from the feeling itself. To accelerate this process, breathe into the physical sensation rather than holding your breath against it.
In a crisis, the instinct is to shout louder and match escalating chaos. True leadership involves 'energetic jujitsu': deliberately slowing down and bringing calmness to the situation. This rare skill is more powerful than simply increasing intensity.
Patti Davis, daughter of Ronald Reagan, suggests a tool for managing intense emotions like grief or anger: set a timer for 30 minutes. Allow yourself to fully experience the feeling during that time. When the alarm sounds, you must move on with your day. This method allows for emotional processing without letting it consume you.
True rest requires a mental break, not just a physical one. Use a technique called "noting" to detach from stress-inducing thought loops. When you catch your mind spiraling—even while physically resting—simply label the activity: "worrying," "planning," or "comparing." This act of observation creates distance, helping you step away from the story and return to the present moment.
When facing an existential business threat, the most effective response is to suppress emotional panic and adopt a calm, methodical mindset, like a pilot running through an emergency checklist. This allows for clear, logical decision-making when stakes are highest and prevents paralysis from fear.
Instead of asking, "Have I worked enough to deserve rest?", ask, "Have I rested enough to do my best work?" This shift reframes rest from a reward you must earn into a necessary input for quality, compassion, and higher-level thinking. When in a fight-or-flight state, you lack access to the brain regions required for your most meaningful work.
Instead of bottling up or immediately reacting to anger (e.g., before sending a terse email), channel the emotion physically. A brief, intense activity like lifting a dumbbell for 60 seconds helps process the frustration constructively, preventing it from escalating into a destructive response.
To overcome dread, mentalist Oz Perlman sets a 24-hour alarm after completing a dreaded task. When the alarm rings a day later, he realizes the anxiety is gone. This trains the brain to recognize that anticipatory dread is temporary and irrational, making it easier to start next time.
In volatile times, the instinct is to act decisively and quickly. Brené Brown argues the more effective approach is to pause, assess the situation holistically (like a soccer player controlling the ball), and then make a strategic move. This prevents reactive, scarcity-driven decisions that often backfire.
When your mind starts its negative chatter, don't get lost debating the content. Instead, use the chatter itself as a physiological alarm bell. It's a signal that you've likely stopped breathing deeply and disconnected from your body. Use it as a reminder to reconnect physically, not engage mentally.