Instead of asking, "Have I worked enough to deserve rest?", ask, "Have I rested enough to do my best work?" This shift reframes rest from a reward you must earn into a necessary input for quality, compassion, and higher-level thinking. When in a fight-or-flight state, you lack access to the brain regions required for your most meaningful work.
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Top performers like jiu-jitsu champion Marcelo Garcia avoid staying in a state of moderate, constant stress (a 'simmering six' out of ten). Instead, they master dropping to zero (deep rest) and exploding to ten (full engagement) only when needed, conserving energy and preventing burnout.
For those who struggle with stillness, active forms of rest like gardening or baking can be a powerful entry point. The key is that the activity must be intentionally unproductive, with no achievement goal. This active rest helps calm the nervous system, making it easier to transition to deeper, more still forms of rest like meditation later on.
We often optimize workflows to save time, only to fill that newfound time with more tasks. The real purpose of productivity should be to create intentional 'park bench moments' of rest and enjoyment. This space is the goal of the effort, not a byproduct.
Most productivity systems are based on Industrial Revolution models that assume constant, machine-like output. A more humane approach involves first understanding your personal energy ebbs and flows and then building a compassionate system that aligns with your body's reality.
Top creators don't wait for inspiration; they engineer it through structured rest. Activities like taking multiple showers (Sorkin), aimless boating (Einstein), or problem-solving walks (Darwin) look unproductive but are crucial for high-quality creative output. This contrasts with the modern tendency to brute-force solutions at a desk.
True rest requires a mental break, not just a physical one. Use a technique called "noting" to detach from stress-inducing thought loops. When you catch your mind spiraling—even while physically resting—simply label the activity: "worrying," "planning," or "comparing." This act of observation creates distance, helping you step away from the story and return to the present moment.
Your worth isn't measured by how much you can handle before you break. Instead of using your calendar to prove your capacity for work, use it to intentionally protect your peace. Radical prioritization and scheduling open space is a strategic move that enables better decision-making.
When you have the freedom to take a lunch break, ask for help, or log off on time, you have a responsibility to do it. By resting, you normalize these behaviors for other women and team members who may not feel they have the same permission. Failing to rest perpetuates a culture of overwork, whereas modeling it creates a subtle but powerful cultural shift.
At scale, the biggest threat isn't a lack of opportunity but mental overload. The key is to treat your focus as a finite resource and actively protect it. This means becoming comfortable saying "I'm done for today" and disappointing people, realizing that protecting your mind is more strategic than satisfying every request.
High-achievers often avoid rest because of a deep-seated fear that taking their "foot off the gas" will cause their business and life to fall apart. This isn't just about missing opportunities; it's a fear of total failure. Overcoming this requires building trust through small, safe experiments in slowing down, proving that the business can survive without constant, high-intensity effort.