UCLA research shows that consciously labeling a negative emotional cue (e.g., thinking “that was an eye-roll”) calms the amygdala’s threat response. This mental act restores physiological control, stopping a downward spiral in high-stakes situations like presentations or negotiations.
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The physiological states of anxiety and excitement are nearly identical. Relabeling the feeling by saying "I'm excited" shifts your mindset from threat-based to opportunity-based, improving performance in tasks like public speaking or negotiation.
The "Catch, Confront, Change" method, rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy, reframes emotions as a useful alarm system. Anxiety or other negative feelings are the first indicator that a counterproductive thought is present. By "catching" this signal, you can then confront the thought's validity and actively change the narrative, rather than letting the emotion spiral.
The brain's emotional center is five times stronger than its rational part. When triggered by stress, it shuts down executive function. A deliberate 90-second pause is a powerful antidote that allows the physiological wave of emotion to pass, enabling clearer, more considered decision-making.
Based on the principles of EMDR, intentionally moving your eyes laterally from side-to-side for about 30 seconds can suppress activity in the amygdala. Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman confirms this is a scientifically validated technique for creating a state of reduced alertness before a stressful event like public speaking.
To move from emotional reactivity to strategic choice in conflict, use a three-step process. First, recognize your physical and emotional triggers (Self-Awareness). Next, consciously calm your nervous system (Pause). Finally, shift your view from a threat to a learning opportunity (Reframe).
In a tense meeting or interview, focusing on summarizing the other person's points serves a dual purpose. It makes them feel heard, but more importantly, it gives your own nervous system time to settle. This shifts focus outward, reducing internal anxiety and allowing you to respond more calmly and effectively.
When you observe a social rejection cue, like an eye-roll, your body has a physiological threat response. Your pupils dilate, literally widening your field of vision to scan for other threats or escape routes, while your brain releases performance-inhibiting stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol.
A growing trend in psychology suggests relabeling emotions like anger as “unpleasant” rather than “negative.” This linguistic shift helps separate the aversive sensation from the emotion's potential long-term benefits or consequences, acknowledging that many difficult feelings have upsides.
When your mind starts its negative chatter, don't get lost debating the content. Instead, use the chatter itself as a physiological alarm bell. It's a signal that you've likely stopped breathing deeply and disconnected from your body. Use it as a reminder to reconnect physically, not engage mentally.
By simply relabeling the feeling of stress as "excitement," you can trigger a different physiological and psychological response. This technique, known as anxiety reappraisal, can lead to measurably better performance in high-pressure situations like public speaking or presentations.