This anthropological concept captures the cognitive dissonance of knowing the world is changing while leaders and institutions act like everything is normal. This disconnect can make individuals feel as if they are going crazy, questioning their own perception of reality.
The phrase “I owe you” can be seen not as a transactional obligation but as an acknowledgment of receiving care and a signal that the relationship is one of mutual support. It communicates a willingness to give back to the community, not just to clear a personal ledger.
Modern culture has transformed productivity from a performance metric into a measure of a person's deservingness and identity. This is dangerous because it falsely suggests hard work is the sole variable for success, ignoring systemic factors and harming well-being.
Society hasn't processed the collective trauma of events like the pandemic, leading to widespread emotional dysregulation that prevents clear thinking. To move forward, groups must first feel and acknowledge the fear and grief, rather than just intellectualizing the problems.
Most productivity systems are based on Industrial Revolution models that assume constant, machine-like output. A more humane approach involves first understanding your personal energy ebbs and flows and then building a compassionate system that aligns with your body's reality.
Western culture's focus on hyper-individualism leads people to feel personally responsible for solving massive, systemic issues. This creates immense pressure and an illogical belief that one must find a perfect, individual solution to a problem that requires a collective response.
The root cause of people-pleasing is often a “self-abandonment wound.” We seek validation or acceptance from others because we are trying to get something from them that we are not giving ourselves. The solution is to develop internal self-acceptance and set boundaries.
A growing trend in psychology suggests relabeling emotions like anger as “unpleasant” rather than “negative.” This linguistic shift helps separate the aversive sensation from the emotion's potential long-term benefits or consequences, acknowledging that many difficult feelings have upsides.