Men can subconsciously split women into two categories: the pure "Madonna" they love and the "whore" they sexually desire. This complex prevents them from integrating their primal nature into their loving relationship, often leading them to seek affairs or porn to fulfill that part of themselves.

People spot small relationship issues but avoid addressing them because the immediate conversation is uncomfortable. This cognitive bias, where aversion to short-term pain outweighs the desire for long-term health, is the single biggest reason relationships fail.

Catastrophic relationship failures are rarely caused by a single event. Instead, they are the result of hundreds of small moments where a minor conflict could have been repaired with validation or an apology, but wasn't. The accumulation of these unrepaired moments erodes the relationship's foundation over time.

People cite specific events like affairs or fights as the reason for divorce. However, the root cause is a gradual loss of the shared story and purpose that once united them. The triggering event is merely the final chapter, not the whole story of the decline.

Your intuition is the deep inner voice telling you something is wrong. Your instincts, however, are often flawed survival reactions that can make things worse. Instinct might tell you to 'try harder' when feeling rejected, which is as counterproductive as a riptide victim's instinct to swim directly to shore.

Contrary to the "get it out of your system" theory, a higher number of past sexual partners is a strong predictor of future relationship instability. For both men and women, it correlates with higher rates of divorce, cheating, and lower satisfaction in long-term relationships.

Women's desire for safety is an emotional state tied to connection and feeling protected, which they constantly monitor. In contrast, men pursue security, which is a fact-based assessment of their resources, status, and control over their environment. This fundamental difference in needs often leads to misunderstandings.

While a prenup is negotiated in good faith before marriage, a postnup often arises from a marital issue like infidelity. This timing can lead courts to view it as the first step in a divorce negotiation, not a marriage plan, making it more susceptible to being challenged and overturned.

People often know a relationship is over long before they leave. The awareness that it's wrong is distinct from the motivation to act. Leaving requires high 'activation energy' (emotional turmoil, logistics) which battles powerful cognitive biases like sunk cost, loss aversion, and status quo bias.