Intense, chaotic, or euphoric feelings in a new relationship are often misinterpreted as deep "chemistry" or love. In reality, this intensity can be a sign that one's nervous system recognizes a familiar, and potentially unhealthy, dynamic from the past. True, safe intimacy is often calmer and less dramatic.

Your choice of a life partner has a greater impact on your financial future than any career or investment. Financial incompatibility is the number one reason for divorce, underscoring that marriage is a financial contract at its core, where alignment on money matters more than romantic feelings for long-term stability.

Contrary to common advice, high expectations aren't inherently bad for marriage. They create a bifurcation: couples who invest enough to meet these expectations achieve unprecedented levels of fulfillment, while those who can't are often unhappier than couples from past eras with lower expectations.

An indicator of emotional maturity in a potential partner is how they discuss past relationships. A healed individual will acknowledge their own contributions to the relationship's failure, rather than solely blaming their ex. This demonstrates self-awareness and the capacity for growth, signaling a healthier partner.