The most common reason high-achievers face divorce is their partner feeling deprioritized. This "slippage" isn't a single event but a series of small, unintentional disconnections that accumulate over time, much like individual raindrops causing a flood.
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Galloway suggests 'balance' is a myth for ambitious couples. The key to a successful partnership is explicit alignment on shared long-term goals and the sacrifices required to achieve them, rather than trying to perfectly balance time and attention on a daily basis.
People spot small relationship issues but avoid addressing them because the immediate conversation is uncomfortable. This cognitive bias, where aversion to short-term pain outweighs the desire for long-term health, is the single biggest reason relationships fail.
Catastrophic relationship failures are rarely caused by a single event. Instead, they are the result of hundreds of small moments where a minor conflict could have been repaired with validation or an apology, but wasn't. The accumulation of these unrepaired moments erodes the relationship's foundation over time.
People cite specific events like affairs or fights as the reason for divorce. However, the root cause is a gradual loss of the shared story and purpose that once united them. The triggering event is merely the final chapter, not the whole story of the decline.
When a partner discourages your ambitions, it's often not out of hate but a deep-seated fear that your personal growth will lead to you leaving them. This insecurity is the root cause to address.
The idea of a constant 50/50 balance is a myth for ambitious couples. A healthier model is to view the relationship in seasons, where one partner may need 80% of the support during an intense period. This requires explicit conversations to ensure the balance shifts back over time, avoiding resentment.
Traits like obsessive work ethic and a need for control are professionally rewarded, leading to success. However, these very qualities, often rooted in past insecurities, become significant barriers to intimacy, delegation, and relinquishing control in personal life and business growth.
The feeling of falling out of love can be a side effect of chronic work stress, which acts as an emotional anesthetic. This numbness extends to your home life, making you incapable of feeling love and leading you to mistakenly believe your partner or your feelings for them have changed.
The success of a long-term relationship is better predicted by how partners handle conflict and disagreement than by how much they enjoy good times together. People are more likely to break up due to poor conflict resolution than a lack of peak experiences.
The ability to endure discomfort for long-term goals is an asset in a career but can be catastrophic in relationships. High achievers wrongly apply this 'grit' to their personal lives, causing them to tolerate profound unhappiness indefinitely, believing endurance is a virtue in all contexts.