Friction between teams often arises from deeply misaligned values, not just personality clashes. A "move fast" team measured by DAUs will inevitably conflict with a "reliability" team measured by uptime SLAs. True alignment requires shared goals, not just shared projects.

Most leaders are conflict-avoidant. Instead of running from tension, view it as a data point signaling an unaddressed issue or misalignment. This reframes conflict from a threat into an opportunity for discovery and improvement, prompting curiosity rather than fear.

Jacob Collier explains that beautiful music relies on controlling dissonance (tension), not just playing pleasant notes (consonance). This applies to teams: leaning into creative tension and resolving it leads to a more meaningful outcome than avoiding disagreement altogether.

When a team has a gap in one of the six genius types, the one person who possesses that "minority genius" is crucial for balance. However, the team's natural tendency is to dismiss or "expel them like a virus" because their approach is different. Leaders must consciously cherish and protect these individuals.

Leadership coach Denise Blank suggests using non-judgmental metaphors from nature (e.g., 'stuck in an eddy,' 'at a cross current') to describe conflict patterns. This allows teams to address the dynamic itself without blaming individuals, fostering curiosity and collaboration instead of defensiveness.

When smart partners think the other is an idiot, it's often due to a 'base assumption collision.' Each person operates on a different fundamental, unspoken belief about reality ('the world is X'). Identifying and discussing these hidden assumptions is key to resolving otherwise intractable conflicts.

When a big-picture leader communicates with a detail-oriented team, friction is inevitable. Recognizing this as a clash of communication styles—not a personal failing or lack of competence—is the first step. Adaptation, rather than frustration, becomes the solution.

Teams are composed of two mindsets: 'creators' who push boundaries with new ideas and 'doers' who execute existing plans. Asking a doer for creative, expansive ideas is a mistake, as they will default to what they know is achievable. True innovation requires tapping into your creators.

Leveraging frameworks like Human Design transforms team collaboration. By understanding archetypes (e.g., a fast-executing Manifesting Generator vs. a guiding Projector), team members can anticipate and accommodate different work styles, turning potential points of friction into a complementary partnership.