Most leaders are conflict-avoidant. Instead of running from tension, view it as a data point signaling an unaddressed issue or misalignment. This reframes conflict from a threat into an opportunity for discovery and improvement, prompting curiosity rather than fear.
'Radical listening' expands on active listening by incorporating internal data. This means paying attention to your own emotional reactions and intuition during a conversation, as these signals can reveal unspoken truths and lead to more profound questions and insights.
Leadership coach Denise Blank suggests using non-judgmental metaphors from nature (e.g., 'stuck in an eddy,' 'at a cross current') to describe conflict patterns. This allows teams to address the dynamic itself without blaming individuals, fostering curiosity and collaboration instead of defensiveness.