'Radical listening' expands on active listening by incorporating internal data. This means paying attention to your own emotional reactions and intuition during a conversation, as these signals can reveal unspoken truths and lead to more profound questions and insights.
Most leaders are conflict-avoidant. Instead of running from tension, view it as a data point signaling an unaddressed issue or misalignment. This reframes conflict from a threat into an opportunity for discovery and improvement, prompting curiosity rather than fear.
Leadership coach Denise Blank suggests using non-judgmental metaphors from nature (e.g., 'stuck in an eddy,' 'at a cross current') to describe conflict patterns. This allows teams to address the dynamic itself without blaming individuals, fostering curiosity and collaboration instead of defensiveness.