There isn't a direct gene for ADHD or depression, but there is a 'sensitivity gene' that makes individuals more susceptible to stress. According to epigenetics, present and nurturing parenting in the first year of life can effectively neutralize the expression of this gene, preventing future mental illness.

Parenting isn't a one-way street. A child's inherent temperament (e.g., ADHD, agreeableness) actively shapes parental reactions. This creates powerful feedback loops where, for instance, a difficult child elicits stricter parenting, which in turn affects development. The outcome is often misattributed solely to the parenting style.

If ADHD is a response to environmental stress, the logical first step is not medication but parental guidance therapy. This 'inconvenient truth' shifts responsibility to parents to examine family dynamics and psychosocial stressors as the root cause before medicating a child's symptoms.

According to neuroanatomist Dr. Jill Bolte-Taylor, the brain's left emotional system stores past pain, trauma, and addiction. This isn't a flaw; it's a protective mechanism designed to trigger reactions based on past negative events. Healing involves understanding this system, not erasing it.

People with ADHD don't lack attention; their brain's "salience network" fails to distinguish between important and unimportant stimuli. Every sound or movement is treated as relevant, causing distraction. Neurofeedback can train this network to filter out noise and focus on the primary task.

Many children diagnosed with ADHD are actually suffering from sleep deprivation caused by breathing issues like snoring or sleep apnea. Assessing a child's breathing and sleep quality should be the first step, as it is often overlooked in favor of medication.

ADHD symptoms are framed not as a neurological disorder, but as a physiological stress response. The 'Attention-Deficit' is the 'flight' (distraction) and 'Hyperactivity' is the 'fight' (aggression) from an over-activated nervous system, often triggered by early childhood stress.

The rise of 'helicopter parenting'—driven by high-profile but statistically rare media stories—has stripped childhood of unstructured, challenging experiences. Without facing minor physical and social risks (like playground fights), younger generations perceive intellectual disagreements as severe threats, leading to higher anxiety and depression.

Over the same decades that children's independent play has declined, rates of youth anxiety and depression have steadily risen. Unsupervised play is crucial for developing an "internal locus of control," which allows kids to learn they can handle life’s challenges and builds resilience.