Ancient societies universally used rites of passage—difficult, often dangerous, solitary journeys—to transition youth into adulthood. These trials forced them to confront failure and discover their capability, fostering a confidence and competence that modern society struggles to instill without such structured challenges.
While 'born to run' is a popular concept, humans are even more adapted to carry heavy loads over long distances (rucking). This was essential for transporting food and resources. Modern rucking offers a low-impact workout that combines the cardiovascular benefits of running with a crucial strength-building element.
The rise of 'helicopter parenting'—driven by high-profile but statistically rare media stories—has stripped childhood of unstructured, challenging experiences. Without facing minor physical and social risks (like playground fights), younger generations perceive intellectual disagreements as severe threats, leading to higher anxiety and depression.
In Bhutan, one of the world's happiest countries, citizens are encouraged to think about death daily. This seemingly morbid practice serves a psychological purpose: embracing mortality and impermanence strips away trivial anxieties and forces a focus on what truly matters, leading to a happier, more meaningful life.
The human brain defaults to an energy-saving 'autopilot' mode for predictable routines, like a daily commute. This causes you to be mentally absent and miss large portions of your life. Introducing novelty and unpredictable experiences is crucial because it forces your brain to disengage autopilot and become present and focused.
Constant stimulation from digital media keeps our brains in a taxed 'work mode.' Intentionally disconnecting and allowing for boredom activates the default mode network, a resting state that fosters inward thinking, problem-solving, and ultimately, enhanced creativity. Our escape from boredom is often 'junk food for the mind.'
A modern rite of passage, Misogi involves undertaking a difficult task once a year that you genuinely believe you have only a 50/50 chance of completing. This forces you to push past perceived limits, revealing that your potential is far greater than you assume and recalibrating your mental resilience.
Spending a month in the Arctic, deprived of basic comforts, completely recalibrated the author's perception of daily life. Upon return, simple things like a soft chair, hot water, and mediocre coffee felt like profound luxuries. We fail to appreciate modern life's miracles because our baseline for comfort is too high.
This concept, 'prevalence-induced concept change,' shows that as significant problems decrease, our brains don't experience fewer issues. Instead, we expand our definition of a 'problem' to include minor inconveniences, making neutral situations seem threatening. This explains why comfort can paradoxically increase perceived hardship.