A subtle nonverbal code exists between men where nod direction signals relationship status. A nod up exposes the vulnerable neck area, signaling trust and familiarity (“I know you”). A nod down protects the neck and serves as a respectful acknowledgment of a stranger’s presence (“I see you”).

A healthy boundary isn't about telling someone else what they must do (a power struggle). It's about stating what you will do in response to their actions. For example, instead of "You need to stop yelling," a true boundary is "If you yell at me, I am going to leave the room for 20 minutes."

A common misconception is that psychological safety means being comfortable and polite. In reality, it's the capacity to have necessary, difficult conversations—challenging ideas or giving honest feedback—that allows a team to flourish. A culture that feels too polite is likely not psychologically safe.

The ultimate test of a good boundary is whether it opens your heart and makes you more capable of loving the other person, regardless of their response. It's difficult to love someone you perceive as oppressing you. A proper boundary removes that sense of oppression by re-establishing your agency, thereby creating space for love.

During negotiations or high-stakes conversations, observe hand gestures. Confident individuals spread their fingers, occupying more territory and signaling comfort. Fearful or anxious people do the opposite: their fingers come together, and in extreme cases, their thumbs tuck in as a self-protective measure.

A subtle but effective way to manage workplace interruptions is to avoid physically orienting your body toward the person. Acknowledge them verbally to not be rude, but keep your posture directed at your work. This non-verbal cue signals that the conversation should be brief, allowing you to maintain focus without creating conflict.

The most effective way to enforce a boundary is to calmly and politely remove yourself when it's crossed. Don't argue or express anger. Simply state that you're leaving and do so. This non-dramatic, consistent action teaches others your limits without fueling further conflict.

The non-verbal signals a leader sends in the first few seconds after an employee speaks up—especially if done nervously or imperfectly—are the most critical factor in determining whether that person will feel safe enough to offer candid feedback again. This micro-interaction has an outsized impact on psychological safety.

Presence can be categorized into three states: "First Circle" (withdrawn energy), "Third Circle" (overly assertive, bluffing energy), and the ideal "Second Circle" (a state of readiness and connection). By identifying which circle you're in—often revealed by your posture—you can consciously shift to a balanced state for effective communication.