Many professionals avoid video because they dislike watching themselves. Instead of ignoring this discomfort, lean into it. Methodically re-watching your videos is the fastest way to identify and correct awkward delivery quirks, like repetitive blinking or verbal tics. This self-analysis is a critical step to becoming a more polished presenter.
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The deepest insecurities can be a source of credibility. Performance coach Giselle Ugardi argues her own "crippling anxiety" before speaking makes her more qualified to teach confidence because she intimately understands the struggle. This reframes a perceived weakness into a powerful tool for connection and expertise.
The fear of being on camera often stems from self-consciousness. Sending short, personal "video voicemails" to one person at a time shifts your focus. The act of creating a video for a specific individual forces you to visualize them, humanizing the interaction and replacing fear with a focus on connection.
The term 'self-promotion' feels self-absorbed and can create anxiety. Instead, view content creation as a selfless act of providing value—either through entertainment or information. This shifts the focus from yourself to the audience, making it easier to share your expertise and stories authentically.
Top performers don't conquer nervousness; they listen to it. Self-doubt is an indicator to lean into, not a signal to stop. Performance coach Giselle Ugardi suggests talking back to your inner critic as a way to reframe and manage the feeling, rather than trying to suppress it.
Using tools that require recording yourself provides a consistent opportunity for self-review. Loom's CEO notes that users improve their communication simply by playing back their own recordings, treating async video as a skill to be developed, not just a tool to be used, because 'pain is gain.'
True self-awareness involves publicly admitting your weaknesses. By openly stating what you're bad at (e.g., 'I suck at 99% of things'), you build immense credibility and trust when you then declare your strengths. This approach validates your expertise in your core competencies.
To get the most out of recording yourself, review it three separate times. First, listen without video to focus on your tone, pace, and filler words. Second, watch without sound to analyze body language and posture. Finally, watch with sound to see the complete picture. This isolates variables for more effective feedback.
Don't improvise your cold calls. Writing out a script allows you to stop worrying about *what* to say and focus your mental energy on *how* you say it—your tone, pacing, and confidence. This is the key to sounding natural and building rapport, even when you're anxious.
In a tense meeting or interview, focusing on summarizing the other person's points serves a dual purpose. It makes them feel heard, but more importantly, it gives your own nervous system time to settle. This shifts focus outward, reducing internal anxiety and allowing you to respond more calmly and effectively.
Borrowing from filmmaking, view communication slip-ups not as failures but as different "takes." This reframes errors as opportunities to try a different approach next time, reducing fear and encouraging experimentation and growth.
