Evidence suggests that much of what people claim as post-traumatic growth is an imaginary coping mechanism. It's a way to rationalize suffering and reduce cognitive dissonance, rather than a true, observable transformation in thinking, feeling, or action.

Trauma is not an objective property of an event but a subjective experience created by the relationship between a present situation and past memories. Because experience is a combination of sensory input and remembered past, changing the meaning or narrative of past events can change the experience of trauma itself.

For individuals whose symptoms have been repeatedly dismissed, a serious diagnosis can feel like a relief. It provides validation that their suffering is real and offers a concrete problem to address, overriding the initial terror of the illness itself.

When faced with profound trauma like a loved one's terminal diagnosis, the act of writing becomes a lifeline. It is not about crafting a narrative for later but about processing overwhelming events as they unfold, creating a way to survive the horror.

When we hear stories of how ancestors overcame challenges, we internalize them as "vicarious memories." These are not just tales but mental models of resilience that act as a psychological buffer against our own adversity. This has been observed in studies of children post-9/11 and military veterans.

The concept of being "self-made" is a fallacy that promotes isolating individualism. According to author Alyssa Quart, it causes successful people to deny their support systems and leads those struggling to internalize self-blame, ignoring the systemic factors that shape their circumstances.

Forcing positivity on someone suffering invalidates their authentic feelings of fear, anger, and grief. This "toxic positivity" creates pressure to perform as a "graceful patient," preventing the honest conversations needed to process trauma and isolation. True support makes space for the "uglier aspects" of an experience.

The common narrative that recovery ends with a cure is a myth. For many survivors of major illness, the aftermath is the true beginning of the struggle. It involves grappling with post-traumatic stress, a lost sense of identity, and the challenge of reintegrating into a world that now feels foreign.

Psychologists can predict the severity of a person's depressive and anxious symptoms not by the content of their trauma, but by the form of their narrative. Recurring, stuck narratives, or what is called the "same old story," correlate with poorer mental health outcomes.