The concept of a vast 'mating marketplace' driven by immediate value signals is a recent phenomenon. Evolutionarily, humans formed bonds based on long-term compatibility within small, familiar tribes, suggesting that today's dating apps create an unnatural and potentially detrimental dynamic.

The pandemic's social isolation created a lasting deficit in dating skills, particularly for young adults. Sociologists note that dating is a learned skill, not like riding a bike. Missing two formative years of practice has left many struggling to build relationships post-lockdown.

Social shifts, including the pandemic and online life, have diminished people's ability to handle rejection. This "rejection resilience" deficit leads to risk aversion, preventing younger generations from proactively pursuing dream jobs or relationships.

Elite women promote anti-relationship views as a "luxury belief," conferring status on themselves while harming less affluent women, who data shows experience greater declines in fertility and happiness when they forgo marriage and family.

Society rewards hyper-independence, but it's often a coping mechanism to avoid relational vulnerability. This external validation creates a vicious cycle, leading to external success but profound internal disconnection and loneliness, as the behavior is both protective and culturally applauded.

The endless-swipe model of online dating is miserable because it frames the core problem of love as a search for the 'right' person. This distracts from the actual, harder work: learning to build compatibility and navigate conflict with an inevitably imperfect human.

Historically, people lived in communities with extended kin networks that met various social and emotional needs. Today, with the rise of the nuclear family and social isolation, individuals expect their romantic partner to be their stable companion, passionate lover, and entire support system—an impossible set of demands for one person to meet.

There is a direct correlation between a young man's economic status and his likelihood of being in a relationship. As wealth inequality grows, the stability and resources required for long-term partnerships are increasingly unattainable for lower-income men, effectively turning romance into a luxury good.

Demographers theorized that as men adapted to women's emancipation, relationship rates would re-stabilize. However, even in highly egalitarian Scandinavian countries, singlehood continues to rise. This suggests deeper factors are driving the trend, forcing experts to reconsider its causes and ultimate plateau.