Demographers theorized that as men adapted to women's emancipation, relationship rates would re-stabilize. However, even in highly egalitarian Scandinavian countries, singlehood continues to rise. This suggests deeper factors are driving the trend, forcing experts to reconsider its causes and ultimate plateau.
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Despite social progress, reversing traditional provider roles can create relationship friction. The podcast highlights research showing that when women earn more, it can negatively impact male identity and female attraction, leading to higher divorce rates.
Women's rising socioeconomic status has led to "hyperandry," where men marry "up" economically. This is now the norm for the bottom 40% of male earners and the top 20% of female earners, creating a new social landscape with unresolved cultural tensions and mismatched preferences.
Stable marriage is increasingly correlated with high income. While 75% of men in the top income quintile marry, only 25% in the bottom quintile do. This reframes the decline of marriage not as a cultural choice, but as a clear marker of economic class division.
As women's success grows, their preference to "date up and across" creates an imbalanced sex ratio at the top of the socioeconomic ladder. This gives a small group of ultra-high-performing men disproportionate power, leading them to be less committal.
Contrary to the narrative that rising singlehood is purely a choice of freedom, surveys show that 60% to 70% of single people would rather be in a relationship. This indicates that for many, being single is an undesirable outcome of current social and dating market dynamics, not a celebration of independence.
Because women traditionally 'mate up' socioeconomically, the falling economic and educational status of men has shrunk the pool of 'eligible' partners. This contributes directly to a 'mating crisis' characterized by fewer relationships, delayed family formation, and lower birth rates, with broad societal consequences.
There is a direct correlation between a young man's economic status and his likelihood of being in a relationship. As wealth inequality grows, the stability and resources required for long-term partnerships are increasingly unattainable for lower-income men, effectively turning romance into a luxury good.
Marriage is no longer a universal institution but a strong indicator of economic status. Three-quarters of men in the top income quintile will marry, compared to only one-quarter in the lowest quintile, making stable partnership a modern Veblen good.
The crisis facing young men is fundamentally economic. Their declining viability as providers prevents family formation, a cornerstone of societal stability. This economic frustration leads to anger and radicalization, making the "lonely, broke young man" a uniquely destabilizing force in society.
Despite social progress, a man's identity remains deeply tied to his economic status. When a woman in a relationship earns more than her male partner, the likelihood of divorce doubles, and his use of erectile dysfunction medication triples. This reveals a persistent and powerful link between masculinity, money, and relationship stability.
