Don't conflate confidence with self-assurance, which is the *accurate* assessment of one's skills. Many top performers downplay their expertise out of a false sense of humility. This incongruence can be misinterpreted by others as manipulation, confusion, or a risky inability to self-assess.
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The deepest insecurities can be a source of credibility. Performance coach Giselle Ugardi argues her own "crippling anxiety" before speaking makes her more qualified to teach confidence because she intimately understands the struggle. This reframes a perceived weakness into a powerful tool for connection and expertise.
Senior leaders now value candidates who ask excellent questions and are eager to solve problems over those who act like they know everything. This represents a significant shift from valuing 'knowers' to valuing 'learners' in the workplace.
Top performers don't conquer nervousness; they listen to it. Self-doubt is an indicator to lean into, not a signal to stop. Performance coach Giselle Ugardi suggests talking back to your inner critic as a way to reframe and manage the feeling, rather than trying to suppress it.
The more people learn about a subject, the more they realize how much they don't know. This contradicts the idea that expertise leads to arrogance. Novices, who are unaware of a field's complexity, are often the most overconfident.
True self-awareness involves publicly admitting your weaknesses. By openly stating what you're bad at (e.g., 'I suck at 99% of things'), you build immense credibility and trust when you then declare your strengths. This approach validates your expertise in your core competencies.
Self-aware managers recognize that their strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin. For example, being deeply thoughtful (a strength) often means not being quick on your feet in meetings (a weakness). Acknowledging this link is key to personal growth.
When leadership is seen as a duty to serve rather than a chance for personal gain, the weight of responsibility can suppress feelings of self-doubt. This selfless framing fosters a healthier, more resilient leadership style, particularly for reluctant leaders.
The self-doubt often felt by high-achievers isn't a debilitating flaw. It can motivate leaders to over-prepare, seek diverse expert opinions, and ultimately make more informed decisions, turning a perceived weakness into a strength.
Experiencing imposter syndrome is a natural human response, indicating you're humble enough to recognize you're not a finished article. The goal is not to cure it but to learn to manage and 'dance with' the feeling. It's a sign you're neither a psychopath nor a complete narcissist.
Psychologist Tasha Yurik's research shows 95% of people believe they're self-aware, yet only 10-15% actually are. This massive gap between self-perception and reality is where professional friction and miscommunication originate, as leaders are blind to their true impact on others.