Direct questions in sales or leadership can feel confrontational. Prefacing them with 'I'm curious...' completely changes the dynamic from an interrogation to a collaborative effort to understand. This simple linguistic shift builds trust, encourages openness, and turns transactions into lasting relationships.

If a prospect deflects an opening discovery question by saying you initiated contact, re-center the conversation on their decision-making. A good response is, 'Yes, but you don't take every call. Was there anything in particular you were hoping to get out of it?' This redirects focus to their needs.

To truly understand a prospect's decision-making process, ask for more than you expect to get, such as requesting to be part of their internal evaluation meeting. Even a "no" often prompts them to reveal more about their process, criteria, and stakeholders than a standard discovery question would.

Instead of starting with intros and a list of questions, ask the prospect why they accepted the meeting and what they hope to get out of it. This simple question cuts through the noise and gives them an opportunity to state their intent and priorities upfront, revealing their 'pull' from the very beginning.

Instead of asking standard discovery questions, top performers pose strategic questions that require joint exploration. This shifts the dynamic from a sales pitch to a collaborative problem-solving session, creating a deeper partnership and revealing unforeseen opportunities that standard questions would miss.

Adopt the mindset that the meeting's purpose is for you to determine if the prospect qualifies to be your customer, not for you to convince them to buy. This posture shifts control, positions you as the prize, and forces the prospect to prove they are a serious potential partner.

Instead of asking who the decision-makers are for the current deal, inquire about how they've made similar purchasing decisions in the past. This question, asked early when prospects are more relaxed, makes them more forthcoming about committees and internal processes, revealing the true path to a sale.

To gain buy-in, guide people to your desired outcome through a curated series of questions. This allows them to feel like they are discovering the solution themselves, creating a powerful sense of ownership. They are more likely to commit to a conclusion they feel they helped create.

Reframe the objective of a sales meeting to be getting a 'no' as quickly as possible. A 'yes' is simply a byproduct of failing to get a 'no.' This counterintuitive approach helps identify non-decision-makers instantly and forces qualified buyers to justify why the conversation should continue.