Adopt the mindset that the meeting's purpose is for you to determine if the prospect qualifies to be your customer, not for you to convince them to buy. This posture shifts control, positions you as the prize, and forces the prospect to prove they are a serious potential partner.
Reframe the objective of a sales meeting to be getting a 'no' as quickly as possible. A 'yes' is simply a byproduct of failing to get a 'no.' This counterintuitive approach helps identify non-decision-makers instantly and forces qualified buyers to justify why the conversation should continue.
Instead of waiting until the end to close, establish the meeting's potential outcomes upfront. Get the prospect's permission to deliver a 'no' if it's not a fit, and pre-agree on a specific next step if neither party says 'no'. This eliminates the buyer's power to stall later on.
Eliminate the "send me a proposal" stall by defining the next step as a valuable, paid engagement, like a diagnostic or workshop. By charging for this, you force the money conversation early, filter for serious buyers, and avoid creating free documentation that can be shopped around.
Prospects follow a predictable four-step process: they deceive to get a meeting, plunder information, mislead with stalls, and then hide once they have a proposal. Recognizing this "matrix" is the first step for sellers to regain control of the sales cycle and avoid providing unpaid consulting.
Sellers fail not from a lack of confidence, but from the core belief that the buyer with the money holds the power. This mindset is reinforced because they behave the same way as buyers themselves. To regain control, sellers must fundamentally change their belief system and act as the authority in the process.
A salesperson's power comes from being unattached to winning any single deal. By focusing on flawlessly executing the sales process—like a lawyer defending a client—rather than on the outcome, they can ask tough questions and maintain authority without seeming needy. The result becomes secondary to professional execution.