Daring leadership isn't measured by how much personal information you disclose. It's the learnable capacity to remain present and effective during moments of uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. Some of the most vulnerable leaders share very little personally.

Brené Brown distinguishes two types of empathy. Cognitive empathy (understanding and validating feelings) is a core leadership skill. Affective empathy (taking on others' emotions) is counterproductive and leads to burnout. Leaders must practice the former and avoid the latter.

A leader's emotional state isn't just observed; it's physically mirrored by their team's brains. This neurological "energy transference" sets the tone for the entire group, meaning a leader's unmanaged stress can directly infect team dynamics and performance.

In leadership, especially during conflict, you have a choice. You can be a 'thermometer,' merely reacting to the emotional temperature of the room, or a 'thermostat,' actively setting and controlling it. Great leaders intentionally manage the environment, calming panic or creating urgency as needed, rather than mirroring the ambient mood.

Refusing to discuss fear and feelings at work is inefficient. Leaders must invest a reasonable amount of time proactively attending to team emotions or be forced to squander an unreasonable amount of time reacting to the negative behaviors that result from those unaddressed feelings.

High-stakes business requires not just intellect but the capacity to handle immense emotional pressure. This 'emotional endurance,' often forged through personal hardship, provides a critical competitive edge during moments of extreme stress, such as a multi-billion dollar negotiation where the outcome is uncertain.

Empathy, defined as merely feeling another's pain, is overrated and can lead to inaction. Effective leadership requires compassion: understanding a problem, feeling a connection, identifying a solution, and having the courage to implement it, even when it's difficult or unpopular.

Before labeling a team as not resilient, leaders should first examine their own expectations. Often, what appears as a lack of resilience is a natural reaction to systemic issues like overwork, underpayment, and inadequate support, making it a leadership problem, not an employee one.

Success at the leadership level requires a developed tolerance for pressure and uncertainty—a skill the CEO calls a 'stomach' for it. This resilience is a distinct capability, and its absence can cause even the most intelligent and talented individuals to fail under pressure, making it a crucial trait for high-stakes roles.