Kai Ryssdal frames his hobby of refereeing soccer as a practical leadership exercise. It forces him to make split-second, high-stakes decisions with a heart rate of 160 while simultaneously being the calmest person on the field. This requires absolute focus and serves as a real-world test of leadership under pressure.
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Described as "absolutely unflappable," CMO Laura Kneebush reveals her method is a deliberate process, not just a personality trait. When faced with a crisis, she intentionally pauses, listens to understand all perspectives, thinks about the big picture, and only then creates a path forward.
In a crisis, the instinct is to shout louder and match escalating chaos. True leadership involves 'energetic jujitsu': deliberately slowing down and bringing calmness to the situation. This rare skill is more powerful than simply increasing intensity.
Before her final race, injured and facing immense pressure, Lindsey Vonn’s 96-year-old coach offered a powerful reframe: "What is 60 seconds in your whole life?" This perspective minimized the moment's weight, freeing her to compete without fear and win a medal.
The responsibility of being a role model creates a unique pressure to maintain a high standard. This isn't just a burden; it's a force that keeps you disciplined and sharp, as you understand that others are taking strength from your actions and words.
When facing the immense pressure of doing Oprah's eyebrows on live TV, Anastasia Soare’s calm came from having performed the task thousands of times. This deep, repetitive mastery creates an autopilot mode that overrides fear and ensures quality performance when the stakes are highest.
The most effective people are not those who shut down feelings to be productive. They are individuals who can maintain clarity and compassion, direction and depth. This new frontier of performance is about having a coherent, steady nervous system that can stay human under pressure, not just exercising brute-force control.
Passion is the driving force, but it becomes destructive when it turns into uncontrolled emotion. McLaren's CEO Zak Brown advises leaders to avoid making critical decisions in emotionally charged moments, instead waiting to regain composure for a more rational approach.
In volatile times, the instinct is to act decisively and quickly. Brené Brown argues the more effective approach is to pause, assess the situation holistically (like a soccer player controlling the ball), and then make a strategic move. This prevents reactive, scarcity-driven decisions that often backfire.
"Executive presence" is often a biased and ill-defined concept. Brené Brown proposes a better model from football: "pocket presence," a quarterback's ability to think and act under pressure. This is a teachable competency for leaders, comprising anticipatory thinking, temporal awareness, and situational awareness.
In a fast-moving world, the best leaders don't just react faster. They create the perception of more time by "settling the ball"—using anticipatory and situational awareness to pause, think strategically, and ensure actions are aligned with goals, rather than just being busy.
