The original meaning of "meek" or "humble" is akin to breaking a wild stallion—not crushing its spirit, but harnessing its immense energy for a positive purpose. True humility in leadership is redirecting your strength and influence for constructive outcomes, not destructive ones.

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Contrary to the popular belief that power corrupts, research suggests it acts as an amplifier. If a person is already "pro-social"—oriented towards helping others—power can increase their empathy and effectiveness. If they are selfish, power will magnify those negative traits.

Great leaders demonstrate humility by surrounding themselves with people who might be more skilled in certain areas. They are drawn to talent that makes them smarter, whereas narcissistic leaders are threatened by it and want to be the smartest person in the room.

The pace of change in AI means even senior leaders must adopt a learner's mindset. Humility is teachability, and teachability is survivability. Successful leaders are willing to learn from junior colleagues, take basic courses, and admit they don't know everything, which is crucial when there is no established blueprint.

Salespeople often focus on being 'coachable' (receptive to feedback). A more powerful trait is humility—the proactive asking for help and recognition that success is a team effort. Humility unlocks collaboration and support, getting you further, faster than simply being open to advice.

Harris suggests that feeling like an "imposter" isn't a flaw but can be a sign of leadership potential. It often stems from a deep, humble understanding of the seriousness of a role and the great responsibility one holds on behalf of others.

Stanford's famous "Interpersonal Dynamics" course teaches a counterintuitive leadership principle: sharing personal vulnerabilities and imperfections doesn't weaken a leader's position. Instead, it builds trust and fosters stronger connections, shifting relationships from a mystery to something one can actively shape through authentic behavior.

Many leaders focus on having the correct analysis. However, true leadership requires understanding that being right is useless if you can't persuade and influence others. The most successful leaders shift their focus from proving their correctness to finding the most effective way to communicate and achieve their goals.

Leaders often try to project an image of perfection, but genuine connection and trust are built on authenticity and vulnerability. Sharing your "brokenness"—insecurities or past struggles—is more powerful than listing accolades, as it creates psychological safety and allows others to connect with you on a human level.

People connect with humanity, not perfection. True leadership requires understanding your own narrative, including flaws and traumas. Sharing this story isn't a weakness; it's the foundation of the connection and trust that modern teams crave, as it proves we are all human.

The tension between being powerful and being likable is a false binary. Instead of choosing one, combine seemingly contradictory traits to define an authentic leadership style, such as "competitively calm" or "ambitiously communal." This creates a more effective and genuine communication persona.