Because women traditionally 'mate up' socioeconomically, the falling economic and educational status of men has shrunk the pool of 'eligible' partners. This contributes directly to a 'mating crisis' characterized by fewer relationships, delayed family formation, and lower birth rates, with broad societal consequences.
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Women's rising socioeconomic status has led to "hyperandry," where men marry "up" economically. This is now the norm for the bottom 40% of male earners and the top 20% of female earners, creating a new social landscape with unresolved cultural tensions and mismatched preferences.
Stable marriage is increasingly correlated with high income. While 75% of men in the top income quintile marry, only 25% in the bottom quintile do. This reframes the decline of marriage not as a cultural choice, but as a clear marker of economic class division.
Data shows high-status men practice assortative mating, pairing with women of similar educational and economic standing. The "rich man marries the young, beautiful waitress" trope is a myth; successful men value partners they can relate to intellectually and who understand their world.
As women's success grows, their preference to "date up and across" creates an imbalanced sex ratio at the top of the socioeconomic ladder. This gives a small group of ultra-high-performing men disproportionate power, leading them to be less committal.
There is a direct correlation between a young man's economic status and his likelihood of being in a relationship. As wealth inequality grows, the stability and resources required for long-term partnerships are increasingly unattainable for lower-income men, effectively turning romance into a luxury good.
Marriage is no longer a universal institution but a strong indicator of economic status. Three-quarters of men in the top income quintile will marry, compared to only one-quarter in the lowest quintile, making stable partnership a modern Veblen good.
The struggles and pathologies seen in young men are not just an isolated gender issue. They are a leading indicator that the broader societal belief in upward mobility—'we can all do well'—is eroding. This group is the first to react when reliable paths to success seem blocked.
The crisis facing young men is fundamentally economic. Their declining viability as providers prevents family formation, a cornerstone of societal stability. This economic frustration leads to anger and radicalization, making the "lonely, broke young man" a uniquely destabilizing force in society.
China's plummeting birth rate is not just about cost. It's a structural issue where highly educated, professional women are opting out of childbirth because male partners are not stepping up to equally share the temporal and financial costs, creating a significant "parenthood penalty" for women.
Despite social progress, a man's identity remains deeply tied to his economic status. When a woman in a relationship earns more than her male partner, the likelihood of divorce doubles, and his use of erectile dysfunction medication triples. This reveals a persistent and powerful link between masculinity, money, and relationship stability.
