Blaming others for an event never produces a better outcome. To shift your mindset, recognize that while you can't control the 'Event,' you can control your 'Response' (thoughts, images, behavior). Choosing a constructive response is the only way to achieve your desired 'Outcome.'

After being scammed out of $2 million, Heather Dubrow was forced to become deeply involved in her family's finances. This crisis-induced education and engagement directly led to the strategies that created the majority of their subsequent wealth, turning a disaster into a pivotal growth moment.

The "Earth School" model posits we volunteer for our life's curriculum via pre-incarnation "soul contracts." Instead of asking "Why me?" in a victimized tone, ask how a situation is perfectly designed for your growth. Even abusers are souls who volunteered for a difficult role.

Counteract the human tendency to focus on negativity by consciously treating positive events as abundant and interconnected ("plural") while framing negative events as isolated incidents ("singular"). This mental model helps block negative prophecies from taking hold.

Viewing saving as 'delayed gratification' is emotionally taxing. Instead, frame it as an immediate transaction: you are purchasing independence. Each dollar saved provides an instant psychological return in the form of increased security and control over your own future, shifting the act from one of sacrifice to one of empowerment.

When lending money to friends, Emma Hernan operates under the assumption she may not be repaid. By mentally reframing the loan as a potential gift, she avoids resentment and preserves the friendship, regardless of the financial outcome. This protects her own well-being and relationships from financial strain.

Skincare founder Kate Somerville was taught to see her chaotic upbringing not as a weakness, but as a training ground that made her exceptionally good at navigating trouble. The adult self can leverage this skill while reassuring the scared inner child, turning past trauma into a present strength.

After losing a $16 million account, the founder's reaction was to spend less than a minute on the news before moving on to the next task. The time to prevent the loss was in the past. Once it happens, dwelling on it is useless. The only productive action is to immediately focus on what's next.

The meaning of an event is not fixed but is shaped by its narrative framing. As both the author and protagonist of our life stories, we can change an experience's impact by altering its "chapter breaks." Ending a story at a low point creates a negative narrative, while extending it to include later growth creates a redemptive one.