Relationship satisfaction can be improved with small cognitive shifts called "love hacks." These involve changing one's internal narrative rather than external realities, such as adopting a "growth mindset" about compatibility or reinterpreting a partner's negative behavior more charitably (e.g., as situational rather than characterological).

Conflict in friendships should be welcomed, not avoided. The psychotherapeutic concept of 'rupture and repair' — a breach in the relationship followed by its restoration — is proof of a strong connection. Actively working through conflict facilitates growth, respect, and a deeper bond.

Counteract the human tendency to focus on negativity by consciously treating positive events as abundant and interconnected ("plural") while framing negative events as isolated incidents ("singular"). This mental model helps block negative prophecies from taking hold.

Viewing saving as 'delayed gratification' is emotionally taxing. Instead, frame it as an immediate transaction: you are purchasing independence. Each dollar saved provides an instant psychological return in the form of increased security and control over your own future, shifting the act from one of sacrifice to one of empowerment.

When collecting large sums from wealthy players, Molly found their refusal to pay stemmed from fear and a feeling of lost control, not inability. Her key was to remain calm and emotionally regulated, making the debtor feel safe. This de-escalation was far more effective for collection than aggression or pressure.

By framing a perpetual issue as an external, inanimate pattern (e.g., a 'spender-saver' dynamic), partners can stop blaming each other. This shifts the focus from personal failings to a shared problem they can address collaboratively, fostering connection instead of disconnection.

The phrase “I owe you” can be seen not as a transactional obligation but as an acknowledgment of receiving care and a signal that the relationship is one of mutual support. It communicates a willingness to give back to the community, not just to clear a personal ledger.

After being scammed out of a significant sum, Kate Somerville coped by reframing the loss. She tells herself, "I hope it's feeding a family that really needs it." This mental shift turns a negative, victimizing event into a positive contribution, helping to release anger and move forward.

Generosity towards employees and customers is more than just good ethics; it's a strategic move in the iterated game of business. It signals your intent to cooperate, which encourages reciprocal cooperation from others. This builds trust and leads to superior long-term outcomes versus a defect-first approach.