Instead of trying to change a toxic superior, which is often futile, focus on leading your own team differently. Build such powerful connection, engagement, and results that your boss has no choice but to recognize the success of your approach, creating a powerful argument for culture change from the bottom up.
Dysfunctional leadership creates a self-sustaining cycle where employees vying for promotion mimic the toxic behaviors of their boss. They do this to endear themselves to the decision-maker, believing that demonstrating a better leadership style would disqualify them from the role.
People won't bring you problems if they fear your reaction. To build trust, leaders must not only control their emotions but actively thank the messenger. This reframes problem-reporting from a negative event to a positive act that helps you see reality more clearly.
To motivate and retain employees, especially in a challenging market, leaders must shift their perspective from 'they work for me' to 'I work for them.' This servant-leadership approach involves genuinely caring about your team's well-being and success, which fosters loyalty and improves performance.
A "team brag session"—where each member publicly praises a colleague—is counterintuitively more beneficial for the giver. While the recipient feels respected, the act of recognizing others elevates the praiser's own morale and strengthens team bonds.
Consistently investing in your team on a personal level builds a reservoir of trust and goodwill called "emotional equity." This makes them more receptive to difficult changes like price increases or new strategies, as they believe you have their best interests at heart.
A lack of hope in the workplace often stems from employees passively consuming the existing culture rather than actively shaping it. Leaders can foster a culture of hope by encouraging contribution and collaboration, which empowers teams to solve problems collectively and build a shared mission.
People naturally start their jobs motivated and wanting to succeed. A leader's primary role isn't to be a motivational speaker but to remove the environmental and managerial barriers that crush this intrinsic drive. The job is to hire motivated people and get out of their way.
Even if you cannot change the broader company culture, you can define and control your own personal culture. This includes your work ethic, your mission, and the colleagues you collaborate with, allowing you to thrive professionally despite a negative environment.
To prevent resentment in high-pressure teams, implement a scheduled forum for fearless feedback, like a "Sunday SmackDown." This creates a predictable, safe container for airing grievances—personal or professional. By separating critique from daily operations, it allows team members to be open and constructive without the awkwardness or fear of disrupting morale, thereby preventing small issues from escalating.
When confronting a talented but abrasive CTO, don't just critique bad behavior. Frame the conversation around their effectiveness. Horowitz suggests saying, "You're a fantastic Director of Engineering, but not an effective CTO," because a true CTO must marshal resources across the entire company, not just manage their own team well.