Technology exposes us to limitless possibilities—from parenting styles to body modifications. This creates a pervasive insecurity and a 'rabid delusion of endless craving.' The constant awareness of what others are doing or have drives a pathological need to keep up, leading to profound consumerism and dissatisfaction.

Despite gains in affluence and safety, modern life has led to increased depression and loneliness. Humans thrive on hardship and the feeling of being essential to their "tribe." The isolation of modern society strips away this sense of necessity, a core human need for fulfillment.

Beyond economic disruption, AI's most immediate danger is social. By providing synthetic relationships and on-demand companionship, AI companies have an economic incentive to evolve an “asocial species of young male.” This could lead to a generation sequestered from society, unwilling to engage in the effort of real-world relationships.

Existential angst is a luxury problem. A century ago, life's purpose was clear: survive. The comfort and freedom of modern life have removed physical struggles but introduced complex psychological ones, like finding meaning and identity, which are a hidden cost of progress.

Contrary to the narrative that rising singlehood is purely a choice of freedom, surveys show that 60% to 70% of single people would rather be in a relationship. This indicates that for many, being single is an undesirable outcome of current social and dating market dynamics, not a celebration of independence.

New York Times columnist Ross Douthat argues the root of modern anxiety isn't just policy, but a growing sense that digital culture and AI are making humans obsolete. This feeling fuels unhappiness, loneliness, and demographic decline, which in turn manifests as political polarization.

Historically, unpartnered young men caused societal disruption. This is less prevalent today because digital media provides titrated doses of sexual satisfaction (porn), status-seeking (video games), and community (screens), pacifying them out of real-world disruptive action. This creates men who are "useless" rather than "dangerous."

Ross Douthat refutes the idea of a leisured aristocracy as a model for a post-work world. He argues they were often busy managing estates, fighting wars, and engaging in a constant struggle to prevent decadence, suggesting that a life of pure, unstructured leisure is inherently unstable and difficult for humans to maintain.

Because women traditionally 'mate up' socioeconomically, the falling economic and educational status of men has shrunk the pool of 'eligible' partners. This contributes directly to a 'mating crisis' characterized by fewer relationships, delayed family formation, and lower birth rates, with broad societal consequences.