This metaphor reframes the cost of inaction due to rejection. By allowing a prospect to stop you, you are willingly giving them power over your income, which is as illogical as letting a stranger take the money meant for your family.
Rejection isn't just a feeling; it's a neurophysical 'fight or flight' response where your body perceives a threat. Understanding this science helps salespeople detach from the emotional pain and manage it as a biological process, not a personal failing.
Even a top-tier sales professional has a career pitch win rate of just 50-60%. Success isn't about an unbeatable record, but a relentless focus on analyzing failures. Remembering and learning from every lost deal is more critical for long-term improvement than celebrating wins.
You wouldn't bowl in street shoes; similarly, you can't sell effectively without the right mindset. Emotional control and mental readiness provide the stability and traction needed to handle rejection and pressure. This isn't a "nice to have"—it's foundational equipment you must prepare daily to avoid slipping at the first objection.
Fixating on closing a deal triggers negativity bias and creates a sense of desperation that prospects can detect. To counteract this, salespeople should shift their primary objective from 'How do I close this?' to 'How do I help this person?'. This simple reframe leads to better questions, stronger rapport, and more natural closes.
Revisit prospects who rejected you 6-9 months prior. Their "no" was often a failure to make any decision, not a rejection of your solution. Circumstances may have changed, making now the perfect time to re-engage the already-warm lead and close a quick deal.
View objections not as personal attacks but as impersonal feedback, like bowling pins left standing. They reveal flaws in your approach's angle or force. This shift allows you to analyze the situation objectively, adjust your strategy, and try again with a different approach rather than becoming emotionally derailed.
While it's easy to regret known bad decisions, like passing on an investment, the far greater mistakes are the unseen ones. The meeting you canceled or the connection you didn't pursue could have been the pivotal moment of your career. This mindset liberates you from the fear of making visible errors and encourages action.
If a prospect says "no" to your permission-based opener but doesn't immediately hang up, use that brief moment to provide context. State a relevant trigger (like hiring) and social proof to pique their curiosity and potentially salvage the call.
Salespeople who fixate on potential negative outcomes, like a golfer expecting to hit into a water hazard, subconsciously alter their actions to make that failure more likely. This negativity bias becomes a physical, self-fulfilling prophecy where the very act of preparing for failure ensures it.
When approaching someone, anticipate their mental checklist of objections and neutralize them upfront. Mentalist Oz Perlman did this by establishing a time limit ("I only have a minute"), building credibility ("the owner brought me in"), and removing the fear of a transaction, all within seconds.