Surrendering your will to a purpose beyond yourself, similar to 12-step programs, is a powerful tool for overcoming performance anxiety. This act of letting go is especially difficult for talented, self-reliant individuals but is key to trading personal stress for universal strength.

Top performers often exist in a state of constant calculation. The key to sustainable excellence is learning to consciously switch between being 'on the field' (strategizing) and 'off the field' (being present). Deliberately switching off sharpens focus and makes you more effective when you are back 'on'.

The key differentiator for top performers is that their mind overrules their feelings. Feelings suggest quitting, offer excuses, and lead to overthinking. A strong mind makes a decision and executes, driving resilience and action despite emotional resistance or doubt.

“Giving yourself grace” is not an excuse for poor effort. It is a post-performance strategy. Uphold a high standard in your work, but apply grace in the evaluation by learning from mistakes without obsessive self-criticism, which prevents you from backing away after a setback.

We procrastinate on important tasks because we implicitly assume we have unlimited time. The practice of "Memento Mori"—remembering that life is short—creates the urgency needed to act. As Marcus Aurelius wrote, "You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think."

Drawing from Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Brad Jacobs combats perfectionism by reframing rigid demands (e.g., "I must be liked") as flexible preferences ("I prefer to be liked"). This simple linguistic shift prevents setbacks from being perceived as total failures, fostering a more resilient and healthier mindset for leaders.

Motivation is a fleeting emotion, making it a poor foundation for long-term success. True excellence comes from building habits based on discipline and consistency, which are conscious choices that allow for progress even when motivation is absent.

Even for the most driven individuals, the key to avoiding overwhelm is internalizing the mantra: "Doing less is always an option." This isn't about quitting but recognizing that strategic pauses and rest are critical tools for long-term, sustainable high performance.

Minor routines, like wearing the same style of shirt or eating the same healthy breakfast, are not restrictive. This discipline frees you from decision fatigue on low-impact choices, preserving crucial mental energy for the strategic thinking that actually matters.