Career success is a poor indicator of a person's inner state. A high-achiever can exhibit immense "outer resilience" while their unresolved trauma manifests internally as chronic illness, addiction, or anxiety. Leaders shouldn't assume top performers are okay.
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In a dysfunctional environment, the absence of pushback is a significant warning sign. Humans are highly adaptive; those who can't tolerate the system leave, while those who remain learn to cope. This creates a dangerous silence, where leaders mistakenly believe everything is fine because no one is complaining.
Many professionals continue down paths they dislike simply because they excel and receive external validation. This pattern of ignoring personal dissatisfaction for the sake of praise is a form of self-betrayal that systematically trains you to ignore your own inner guidance.
High-achievers often get stuck in a cycle of setting and conquering goals. This relentless pursuit of achievement is a dangerous trap, using the temporary validation of success and busyness as a way to avoid confronting deeper questions about purpose and fulfillment.
Don't conflate confidence with self-assurance, which is the *accurate* assessment of one's skills. Many top performers downplay their expertise out of a false sense of humility. This incongruence can be misinterpreted by others as manipulation, confusion, or a risky inability to self-assess.
Many high-achievers are driven by a subconscious need to please an authority figure who never gave them "the blessing"—a clear affirmation that they are enough. This unfulfilled need fuels a relentless cycle of striving and accumulation, making it crucial to question the motives behind one's ambition.
Tying your identity to professional achievements makes you vulnerable and risk-averse. By treating business as a "game" you are passionate about, but not as the core of your self-worth, you can navigate high-stakes challenges and failures with greater objectivity and emotional resilience.
An employee's past, including Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), is an integral part of who they are. Trying to ignore these "rings" is ineffective. Investing in tools that help employees heal their whole selves yields a significant ROI through better engagement and performance.
High achievers often use work as a distraction to control something when life feels chaotic. This is an unsustainable coping mechanism. If you consistently ignore emotional needs and warning signs, your body will eventually rebel, leading to severe physical health crises.
Before labeling a team as not resilient, leaders should first examine their own expectations. Often, what appears as a lack of resilience is a natural reaction to systemic issues like overwork, underpayment, and inadequate support, making it a leadership problem, not an employee one.
