Dysfunctional leadership creates a self-sustaining cycle where employees vying for promotion mimic the toxic behaviors of their boss. They do this to endear themselves to the decision-maker, believing that demonstrating a better leadership style would disqualify them from the role.

A core value, such as a need for trust, can be a leader's greatest strength or weakness. Without self-awareness, it drives toxic behaviors like micromanaging. With self-awareness, that same value becomes a tool for explicitly setting expectations and building a strong team culture.

When a leader models extreme behavior, like working immediately after surgery, it sends an implicit message to the team: 'Your personal crises don't matter; the mission is everything.' This can inadvertently create a culture where employees feel they can't take time for personal emergencies.

Leaders often burn out because their team is overly reliant on them. This dependency isn't a sign of a weak team but rather a leader's subtle micromanagement and failure to truly empower them, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of indispensability.

Leaders who always have the right answer often create an environment where others feel devalued and excluded. The blocker's real cost is not the accuracy of their ideas, but the damage done to team connection and collaborative decision-making, which prevents the team from arriving at the best solutions together.

A senior hire was instrumental in getting Snowflake's CRO promoted. Eighteen months later, that same person was found to be 'cancerous to the organization.' The CRO had to fire them and go on an 'apology tour,' a painful but necessary act of leadership to protect the company culture.

Allowing a high-performing but toxic employee to thrive sends a clear message: results matter more than people. A leader's true impact and the company's real culture are defined not by stated principles, but by the worst behavior they are willing to accept.

Leaders are often insulated from the daily operational friction their teams face. This creates an illusion that tasks are simple, leading to impatience and unrealistic demands. This dynamic drives away competent employees who understand the true complexity, creating a vicious cycle.

Before labeling a team as not resilient, leaders should first examine their own expectations. Often, what appears as a lack of resilience is a natural reaction to systemic issues like overwork, underpayment, and inadequate support, making it a leadership problem, not an employee one.