Popular sales frameworks like Challenger or Sandler often have a selfish underlying goal: "What must I say or do to close this deal?" This mindset can lead to manipulative tactics and harms trust and long-term success more than a genuine, help-first approach.
A sales manager's coaching style directly impacts their team's mindset. Constantly asking 'When will this close?' amplifies a seller's anxiety and negativity bias. In contrast, asking 'How are you helping this person?' reinforces a healthier, customer-centric process that leads to better long-term results.
Shift the fundamental "through line" of your sales process from persuasion to collaboration. Instead of a lone salesperson trying to convince a buyer, think of it as a band practice: bringing in experts, client stakeholders, and internal teams to collectively work towards the best outcome.
The deal's outcome is determined in the initial discovery, not at the end with clever closing lines. A deep engagement process where the prospect uncovers their own problems is what solidifies the sale, making forceful closing tactics obsolete and ineffective.
Forget the outdated "Always Be Closing" mantra. Today's top performers focus on disarming prospects by being neutral and detached. This lowers sales resistance and encourages buyers to open up, which is the true key to a successful sales process.
Fixating on closing a deal triggers negativity bias and creates a sense of desperation that prospects can detect. To counteract this, salespeople should shift their primary objective from 'How do I close this?' to 'How do I help this person?'. This simple reframe leads to better questions, stronger rapport, and more natural closes.
Salespeople become 'narcissistic' when they are so focused on their own solution and capabilities that they fail to listen to the customer. This self-involvement is fatal because customers don't care what a product does; they care about solving their specific problem.
When salespeople release their attachment to whether a deal closes, it puts the customer at ease and encourages more honest communication. This freedom leads to greater effectiveness and efficiency, ultimately improving results, even if it means getting to a "no" faster.
Closing isn't a singular event at the end of a sales process. Instead, it's the natural outcome of a successful discovery phase. By asking the right questions and building a relationship, top salespeople guide the prospect to their own conclusion, making the final commitment a simple, logical next step.
Founders often dread sales because they mistakenly believe their role is to aggressively convince customers. This "seller push" feels inauthentic. Adopting a "buyer pull" perspective, where you help customers solve existing problems, transforms sales from a chore into a collaborative process.
Many sales professionals master techniques but fail to connect deeply. When you are disconnected from your unique purpose and identity, prospects sense an absence. This lack of authentic presence, not flawed technique, is what causes them to disengage without understanding why.