Salespeople become 'narcissistic' when they are so focused on their own solution and capabilities that they fail to listen to the customer. This self-involvement is fatal because customers don't care what a product does; they care about solving their specific problem.
Your attire is a powerful non-verbal cue. Dressing appropriately for the customer's environment—whether a farm or a boardroom—is a sign of respect. It demonstrates you understand their world and that the relationship is about them, not your personal style, which is crucial for building initial trust.
Since communication is overwhelmingly non-verbal (only 6% words), any feeling of desperation from a salesperson is easily detected. This neediness repels buyers because it signals the focus is on the seller's quota, not the buyer's journey, instantly eroding trust and killing the deal.
Deals are lost when salespeople fail to spend enough time in discovery to understand the customer's true need. They must identify the 'moment of demand'—when the customer both recognizes their problem and is ready to decide—rather than rushing to the close with the wrong solution.
Go beyond simple customization and build proposals using the customer's own words and lingo from discovery calls. Reflecting their exact language back to them proves you listened and understood their unique pain. This makes them feel heard and emotionally connects them to the solution, creating urgency.
Effective follow-up isn't about nagging; it's about being a 'barnacle on a boat.' This means staying in contact persistently, not by asking for the sale, but by delivering value every time. This strategy keeps you top-of-mind, building trust so that when the customer is finally ready to buy, you are the logical choice.