When a high-potential but resistant employee rejects a logical change, shift the dynamic. Instead of persuading them, challenge them to justify their role within 24 hours. This forces them to confront their lack of coachability and choose between their ego and their potential, creating a powerful growth moment.
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To overcome loyalty bias toward long-tenured employees, leaders should reframe performance reviews. Instead of asking if they are "good enough," ask, "Knowing our future needs, would I hire this person for this role today?" This clarifies whether their skills match future requirements, enabling objective talent decisions.
When an employee insists a goal is impossible, reframe the problem with an extreme hypothetical. Ask, "What would you do differently if I gave you a $10 million check to achieve it?" This question shifts their thinking from "Can I?" to "How would I?", forcing them to build a creative plan and revealing that the true barrier was belief, not capability.
When a high-potential but cocky employee challenges a key decision, directly address their lack of coachability. Jeremy Duggan turned a new hire's complaint into a 24-hour ultimatum to "get his job back." This high-stakes move reframed the conversation from selling the change to demanding coachability, transforming a talented individual into a top performer.
To help your team overcome their own performance blockers, shift your coaching from their actions to their thinking. Ask questions like, "What were you thinking that led you to that approach?" This helps them uncover the root belief driving their behavior, enabling more profound and lasting change than simple behavioral correction.
When an employee presents a problem they should be able to solve, resist providing a solution. Instead, return ownership by asking, "What do you think you should do about that?" This simple question forces critical thinking and breaks the team's dependency on you for answers.
To clarify difficult talent decisions, ask yourself: "Would I enthusiastically rehire this person for this same role today?" This binary question, used at Stripe, bypasses emotional ambiguity and provides a clear signal. A "no" doesn't mean immediate termination, but it mandates that some corrective action must be taken.
When confronting a high-performing but abrasive employee, don't just criticize. Frame the conversation around their career. Offer a choice: remain a great individual contributor, or learn the interpersonal skills needed for a broader leadership role, with your help.
Keeping an employee in a role where they are failing is a profound disservice. You cannot coach someone into a fundamentally bad fit. The employee isn't growing; they're going backward. A manager's responsibility is to provide direct feedback and, if necessary, 'invite them to build their career elsewhere.'
A manager's highest duty is to an employee's fulfillment, not just their performance. When a top performer is not personally aligned with their role, a leader should actively help them find a better fit—even if it means using their own social capital to place them at another organization.
Instead of telling an underperforming employee they can be better, ask what they believe their biggest possible accomplishment could be. This coaching approach helps individuals discover and own their potential, rather than having it dictated to them, leading to greater breakthroughs.
