Purpose isn't a pre-existing truth you find, like an archaeological dig. It's something you actively build, like an architect. You choose an area of interest, invest energy to build skill, and it transforms into a passion through a feedback loop of personal fascination and external validation.

While struggling with depression, Boyd Varty found relief by following a subtle 'uptick of energy' he felt when pretending to be a writer. This highlights the power of trusting small, non-rational, bodily sensations as a compass for major life decisions, bypassing purely logical analysis.

To find your true calling, divide your life into five-year increments. For each block, list what you loved doing and what others said you excelled at. The seven or so themes that repeatedly emerge point directly to your core purpose and passion, which often get lost in the pursuit of money.

Discovering what you genuinely enjoy requires breaking out of your corporate mindset, much like physical therapy for a forgotten muscle. You must force yourself into uncomfortable, unfamiliar situations—like free tango classes or random online courses—to build the 'muscle memory' for passion and exploration.

The ultimate aim is not to achieve conventional success, but to fully express your unique self. This lifelong project is paradoxical: you cannot become unique by yourself. You need others—friends, family, customers—to reflect your authentic self back to you, helping you see who you are.

The habit of comparing yourself to others often arises when you are not sufficiently exercising your own unique talents. The more you operate within your strengths and serve through them, the less mental space and time you have for comparison.

Instead of searching for a job you're already passionate about, focus on becoming excellent at a valuable skill. The speaker learned from a successful founder that being passionate about excellence itself is the key. The love for the work often develops as a result of achieving mastery.

The perfect business for you might be hidden in the activities you turn to when avoiding other work, like designing or editing videos. Turning these procrastination habits into a service capitalizes on your innate interests and skills, making work feel less like a chore.

We often mistake skills for strengths. A more powerful definition of a strength is any activity that energizes and motivates you. To boost morale and performance, individuals and leaders should focus on aligning work with these energy-giving tasks, rather than just focusing on competency.