A prenuptial agreement is simply the set of rules for a marriage's end. By not creating your own, you automatically opt into the default "prenup" written by state law. This government contract can be altered at any time without your permission, ceding financial control to the state.

A prenuptial agreement isn't about planning for divorce; it's about customizing the legal and financial terms of your marriage contract. If you don't create your own, you are implicitly accepting the default contract written by your state's laws, which may not align with your intentions.

This reframes a prenup not as a sign of distrust, but as a proactive choice. You can either accept the default legal contract the government imposes on your marriage (and can change at will) or create your own terms with your partner.

A growing trend in prenups involves clauses designed to protect second-generation wealth. Parents who plan to leave significant assets or provide ongoing financial support are now insisting their children get prenups to ensure family money doesn't become divisible marital property in a divorce.

Laura Wasser warns against clauses that nullify a prenup after a set number of years. Courts can view these as "promotive of divorce," creating a financial incentive for one spouse to end the marriage just before the clause activates, which could potentially invalidate the entire agreement.

Every marriage has a prenup; it's either one you write together or one written by the state legislature. Forgoing a prenup means you implicitly trust future politicians to decide your fate more than you trust your chosen partner to have an honest conversation.

The prenup conversation is fundamentally about care. It addresses what each partner needs to feel safe and demonstrates a commitment to protect them from all potential harm, including the pain you might cause if the relationship ends.

Divorce can be financially devastating, potentially erasing decades of wealth through legal fees and asset division. Therefore, choosing a life partner is not just an emotional decision but a crucial financial one. Ensuring financial compatibility and considering a prenuptial agreement are vital risk management strategies.

A prenup is not about distrusting a partner; it's about distrusting the government's one-size-fits-all divorce laws. It empowers a couple to create their own rules for a potential separation while they are still in love, ensuring a fairer outcome.