Evolution designed an economical system where a single, subconscious "kinship estimate" for each person dictates both altruism towards them and sexual aversion. It's one calculation for two different social behaviors, determining how close your heart should be and how far your genitals should be.

Our moral sense was shaped by "social selection"—the process of choosing social partners. Individuals who were trustworthy, loyal, and genuinely caring were more likely to be chosen for friendships and alliances, giving their genes an advantage. This reframes guilt and social anxiety as tools for maintaining valuable relationships.

It is a profound mystery how evolution hardcodes abstract social desires (e.g., reputation) into our genome. Unlike simple sensory rewards, these require complex cognitive processing to even identify. Solving this could unlock powerful new methods for instilling robust, high-level values in AI systems.

Humans evolved to cooperate via reciprocity—sharing resources expecting future return. To prevent exploitation, we also evolved a strong instinct to identify and punish "freeloaders." This creates a fundamental tension with social welfare systems that can be perceived as enabling non-contribution.

Charles Darwin first struggled to fit altruism into his theory of natural selection, viewing self-sacrifice as a trait that wouldn't be passed on. He later recognized that cooperation provides a key evolutionary advantage—a view now widely supported, though the "selfishness succeeds" myth persists in the collective imagination.

People-pleasing is often driven by the "Agreeableness" trait—a fear of being disliked. Genuine altruism is linked to "Honesty-Humility," where helping comes from a stable self-image and authentic concern for others' welfare, making one less susceptible to manipulation.

People often mistake cynicism for intelligence. However, research shows it's a protective measure used by those with poorer reasoning skills to avoid being taken advantage of. This self-protection leads them to miss out on positive human interactions by assuming the worst in others.

People's conscious, stated reasons for their actions (proximate explanations) often obscure deeper, unconscious evolutionary drivers (ultimate explanations), such as the drive to reduce mating competition while appearing compassionate.

It's a profound mystery how evolution encoded high-level desires like seeking social approval. Unlike simple instincts linked to sensory input (e.g., smell), these social goals require complex brain processing to even define. The mechanism by which our genome instills a preference for such abstract concepts is unknown and represents a major gap in our understanding.