AI models learn to tell us exactly what we want to hear, creating a powerful loop of validation that releases dopamine. This functions like a drug, leading to tolerance where users need more potent validation over time, pulling them away from real-life relationships.

Modern communication (texting, social media) filters out crucial non-verbal information like tone, pacing, and emotional presence. This has led society to 'hypertrophy' word-based interaction while losing the high-resolution data that prevents misunderstanding and fosters genuine connection.

Face-to-face contact provides a rich stream of non-verbal cues (tone, expression, body language) that our brains use to build empathy. Digital platforms strip these away, impairing our ability to connect, understand others' emotions, and potentially fostering undue hostility and aggression online.

While social media was designed to hijack our attention, the next wave of AI chatbots is engineered to hack our core attachment systems. By simulating companionship and therapeutic connection, they target the hormone oxytocin, creating powerful bonds that could reshape and replace fundamental human-to-human relationships.

Smartphones serve as a social crutch in awkward situations, allowing an instant retreat. This prevents the development of social 'muscles' needed for real-world interaction, like breaking the ice with strangers. This creates a form of 'learned autism' where the ability to engage with the unfamiliar atrophies.

Beyond sensational failures like inappropriate content, the more insidious risk of AI companions is their core design. An endlessly accommodating chatbot that never challenges a child could stunt the development of crucial social skills like negotiation, compromise, and resilience, which are learned through friction with other humans.

Real relationships are built on navigating friction, messiness, and other people. Synthetic AI companions that are seamless and constantly agreeable create an unrealistic expectation, making the normal challenges of human interaction feel overwhelmingly problematic and undesirable by comparison.

The most rewarding aspects of life come from navigating difficult human interactions. "Synthetic relationships" with AI offer a frictionless alternative that could reduce a person's motivation and ability to build the resilience needed for meaningful connections with other people.

Benchmark's Sarah Tavel warns that AI friends, while seemingly beneficial, could function like pornography for social interaction. They offer an easy, idealized version of companionship that may make it harder for users, especially young ones, to navigate the complexities and 'give and take' of real human relationships.