Experiencing a major public failure or online pile-on, while brutal, can be the best thing to happen to a creator. It builds resilience and humility, and by showing you the worst-case scenario, it liberates you from the fear of future failure.
Naturalist Paul Rosolie's reputation was damaged for years by a sensationalized TV stunt, "Eaten Alive." However, this public failure forced him back to his core mission in the Amazon, leading him to develop a more impactful, authentic conservation model and ultimately achieve greater success than the TV show could have provided.
The primary obstacle to taking risks isn't the potential for failure, but the ego's fear of public judgment and shame. People avoid challenges to protect their image. True growth begins when you prioritize learning and feedback over maintaining a facade of perfection.
Instead of hiding her demotion, Alice Ter Haas shared her story publicly. This honesty resonated, reframed the 'failure' as a strength, and became a cornerstone of her new business focused on resilience. She leaned into the shame, which ultimately took its power away.
Paul Rosolie's disastrous 'Eaten Alive' TV special destroyed his scientific reputation and forced him into exile. This humiliating failure, however, was ultimately beneficial. It taught him to identify disingenuous partners and forced him to do the deep, unglamorous work that built true resilience and impact.
Resilience isn't about avoiding failure but about developing the ability to recover from it swiftly. Experiencing public failure and learning to move on builds a crucial 'muscle' for rebounding. This capacity to bounce back from a loss is more critical for long-term success than maintaining a perfect record.
Many people are held back by an intense fear of what others will think of their failures. This fear, often a product of childhood conditioning, prevents them from taking necessary risks. Embracing public failure as a learning process is the key to unlocking potential and reducing anxiety.
To maintain mental health amidst public scrutiny, one should recognize that the audience is not as focused on your perceived failure as you are. While a negative event may feel mortifying and career-defining to you, the public moves on. This perspective helps depersonalize attacks and reduce their long-term psychological impact.
Vivian Tu's viral creator career was unintentionally born from a toxic Wall Street job. A terrible boss forced her to leave, leading to a new role where friends' questions sparked her multi-million dollar brand. Major setbacks can be the unintentional catalysts for your most defining success.
Unlike most professions, stand-up comedy has no private practice space; the only way to learn is by performing live. This forces comedians to reframe failure not as a setback, but as essential research and development—an expected and even exciting part of entering the business.
Fawn Weaver argues the paralyzing fear for many founders isn't the act of failing, but the shame of others witnessing that failure. If a venture failed in private, most founders wouldn't care. This reframes the core psychological barrier to taking risks and scaling.