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Research suggests women leaders often navigate a double bind. They may need to establish warmth and care to be liked, but can differentiate themselves by strategically violating stereotypes with authoritative actions. The key may be earning the right to be tough through demonstrated empathy.
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The tension between being powerful and being likable is a false binary. Instead of choosing one, combine seemingly contradictory traits to define an authentic leadership style, such as "competitively calm" or "ambitiously communal." This creates a more effective and genuine communication persona.
