Daring leadership isn't measured by how much personal information you disclose. It's the learnable capacity to remain present and effective during moments of uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. Some of the most vulnerable leaders share very little personally.

If you derive your sense of self from the outcome of a negotiation or conflict, you will inevitably become self-protective, killing creativity. True effectiveness comes from entering a situation with a secure, pre-existing identity that remains intact regardless of the result.

Steve Garrity's battle with cancer instilled a profound sense of empathy. He applies this to leadership by focusing on developing his team for their own success, even if it means they eventually leave. This "paying it forward" mindset is a direct result of the support he received during his illness, turning personal adversity into a professional strength.

The true turning point in a crisis isn't the hardship, but the internal decision to accept full responsibility for creating change. This mental shift from victimhood to ownership is the catalyst for genuine transformation, especially for young entrepreneurs who may feel isolated in their struggles.

Society often mistakes emotional suppression for strength and discipline, a form of "toxic stoicism." However, true resilience involves feeling emotions deeply and acting despite them. Choosing to be vulnerable—speaking your truth when it's scary—is an act of courage, not weakness.

Stanford's famous "Interpersonal Dynamics" course teaches a counterintuitive leadership principle: sharing personal vulnerabilities and imperfections doesn't weaken a leader's position. Instead, it builds trust and fosters stronger connections, shifting relationships from a mystery to something one can actively shape through authentic behavior.

Intuition is not a mystical gut feeling but rapid pattern recognition based on experience. Since leaders cannot "watch game tape," they must build this mental library by systematically discussing failures and setbacks. This process of embedding learnings sharpens their ability to recognize patterns in future situations.

Leaders often try to project an image of perfection, but genuine connection and trust are built on authenticity and vulnerability. Sharing your "brokenness"—insecurities or past struggles—is more powerful than listing accolades, as it creates psychological safety and allows others to connect with you on a human level.

Leading with empathy is emotionally draining, but it's not compassion that causes fatigue—it's the distress of witnessing suffering without being able to help. For leaders, the ability to take meaningful action during crises makes the emotional cost a worthwhile price to pay.