Feedback often fails because its motivation is selfish (e.g., 'I want to be right,' 'I want to vent'). It only lands effectively when the giver's genuine intention is to help the other person become who *they* want to be. This caring mindset dictates the delivery and reception.

An outdated leadership model pressures leaders to have all the answers. The superior, long-term approach is to focus on the individual, not the problem, by asking questions that guide them to their own solutions, thereby building their confidence and critical thinking skills.

Most managers fail at feedback by avoiding conflict. A better framework combines three elements: toughness (directly confronting the problem), kindness (offering support to improve), and clarity (defining specific actions and the potential positive outcome).

A defining trait of truly impactful leaders is their ability to see and nurture potential before an individual recognizes it themselves. This external belief acts as a powerful catalyst, giving people the confidence to tackle challenges they would otherwise avoid and building deep, lasting loyalty.

To give corrective feedback effectively to sensitive Gen Z employees, leaders must first connect before they correct. The ALEG method provides a four-step process: Ask questions to understand their perspective, Listen intently so they feel heard, Empathize with their situation so they feel understood, and only then Guide them. This approach earns the right to lead through relationship, not authority.

A common pitfall for new managers is seeking validation by being liked. A great leader's role is to provide constructive challenges and uncomfortable feedback, which fosters genuine growth and ultimately earns the team's gratitude and respect.

Leaders often avoid difficult conversations for fear of being disliked. However, if your core motivation is genuinely to help your employee succeed, that good intent gives you the confidence to address tough issues directly. You can risk upsetting them in the short term for their long-term growth.

A leader's most difficult but necessary task is to be truthful, even when it hurts. Avoiding hard realities by "fluffing around" creates a false sense of security and prevents problems from being solved. Delivering honest feedback empathetically is critical for progress and building trust, distinguishing effective leaders from ineffective ones.

Effective leadership is rooted in the core belief that people want guidance, but only from someone they trust can take them to a better place. This conviction empowers leaders to push teams beyond their comfort zones, knowing they will follow if they believe in the leader's vision and capability.