The foundation of clear communication isn't eloquence but active listening. The goal is to understand the other person's perspective before formulating a response, which also helps prevent reactive, stress-induced replies and makes others feel heard.

To communicate with kindness, leaders should first master active listening. This is not passive; it involves asking questions, showing attentive nonverbals, empathizing, and clarifying assumptions. Being fully present in a conversation is a powerful demonstration of care and respect.

To give corrective feedback effectively to sensitive Gen Z employees, leaders must first connect before they correct. The ALEG method provides a four-step process: Ask questions to understand their perspective, Listen intently so they feel heard, Empathize with their situation so they feel understood, and only then Guide them. This approach earns the right to lead through relationship, not authority.

Leaders inadvertently stifle communication through three common traps: underestimating their own intimidation, relying on echo chambers for advice, and sending negative non-verbal cues (or "shut-up signals") like a distracted or frowning face during conversations, which discourages others from speaking up.

To avoid influencing their team's feedback, leaders should adopt the practice of being the last person to share their opinion. This creates a psychologically safe environment where ideas are judged on merit, not on alignment with the leader's preconceived notions, often making the best decision obvious.

In group settings, people subconsciously assign you a "contribution score" based on the quality and relevance of your past input. Speaking too often with low-value comments lowers your score, causing others to discount your future ideas. Speaking rarely but with high insight increases it, commanding attention.

Most leaders focus on broadcasting their message. Emotionally intelligent leaders focus on reception, recognizing that one sentence can be interpreted in eight different ways by eight people. They close the loop by asking, "What did you understand from what I just said?" to ensure true alignment.

Effective spontaneous responses require listening beyond just words. Use the 'Pace, Space, Grace' framework: slow down your urge to respond immediately (Pace), create mental distance to see the larger context (Space), and give yourself permission to trust your intuition about the situation (Grace).

Active listening can sound robotic if it just repeats back words. Deep listening is the next level, where you go beyond the spoken word to pick up on energetic signals and intuition. It makes the other person feel truly understood, not just heard, by acknowledging their emotional state.