To build trust, admit a weakness using the 'stolen thunder' effect. The most advanced application is admitting a flaw that is the mirror image of a strength. For example, Buckley's cough syrup's slogan, 'It tastes awful. And it works,' uses its bad taste to imply potent medicinal effectiveness.
Don't confuse your flaws with your weaknesses. Weaknesses must be addressed. Flaws, like obsession or intense focus (as seen in Michael Jordan), are often perceived negatively by others but are the very traits that make you unique and drive winning. They are gifts to be embraced.
The deepest insecurities can be a source of credibility. Performance coach Giselle Ugardi argues her own "crippling anxiety" before speaking makes her more qualified to teach confidence because she intimately understands the struggle. This reframes a perceived weakness into a powerful tool for connection and expertise.
By openly admitting your inconsistencies while still advocating for a principle, you remove the deceptive claim to unearned status that angers people. This vulnerability prevents a 'gotcha' moment and fosters a more honest conversation, building trust and allowing imperfect people to advocate for important causes.
The 'Pratfall Effect' suggests showing a flaw can make a person or brand more appealing. However, this has a major caveat: it only works from a position of strength. A competent brand like Guinness can highlight its slow pour time as a virtue. An incompetent brand admitting a flaw simply confirms its incompetence, making the situation worse.
In high-visibility roles, striving for perfect communication is counterproductive. Mistakes are inevitable. The key to credibility is not avoiding errors, but handling them with authenticity. This display of humanity makes a communicator more relatable and trustworthy than a polished but sterile delivery.
True self-awareness involves publicly admitting your weaknesses. By openly stating what you're bad at (e.g., 'I suck at 99% of things'), you build immense credibility and trust when you then declare your strengths. This approach validates your expertise in your core competencies.
After establishing competence, admitting a minor flaw or making a small blunder (a "pratfall") can significantly increase appeal. This humanizes a person or product, making them seem more relatable and trustworthy. It works because it proves honesty and makes other claims more believable.
The 'pratfall effect' suggests that admitting a weakness can increase appeal. For brands, this works best when the admitted flaw cleverly emphasizes a core strength. For example, Buckley's cough syrup's 'It tastes awful. And it works' campaign uses its bad taste to signal its powerful efficacy.
Stanford's famous "Interpersonal Dynamics" course teaches a counterintuitive leadership principle: sharing personal vulnerabilities and imperfections doesn't weaken a leader's position. Instead, it builds trust and fosters stronger connections, shifting relationships from a mystery to something one can actively shape through authentic behavior.
Leaders often try to project an image of perfection, but genuine connection and trust are built on authenticity and vulnerability. Sharing your "brokenness"—insecurities or past struggles—is more powerful than listing accolades, as it creates psychological safety and allows others to connect with you on a human level.